December 2, 2019

I've been wrestling a lot lately with my friends. (Let me rephrase because that either sounds sexy or childish, depending on your orientation and how hot you think my circle of friends is).

What I mean is, I've been wrestling with who should be in my friend group. Who a...

November 25, 2019

I've been wrestling with feeling special.

It's not that I don't feel special enough. To the contrary, I can't figure out why someone so special like me hasn't had certain opportunities just handed to him. (Yes I know how ridiculous that sounds; but I also know many of y...

November 18, 2019

I've been wrestling a lot with my choices lately. That's a really polite way of saying that I've been fucking up.

My priorities have been very different from what I've been telling people that they are. It's the reason I've been feeling unsettled. When the walk doesn't...

November 11, 2019

I've been wrestling with myself lately.

(Before we go any further, that's not a jerking off reference. This isn't that kind of blog, though it could be...). I'm grappling with who I am and who I actually want to be.

 Why do I pursue the things I do -- the nearly unattain...

March 6, 2019


I shaved my beard today -- well trimmed, let's not get ahead of ourselves -- but I did not pluck any new grey hairs from it. I don't promise that I never will. But I let them stay today because I've earned every single one of them. They are my stress, my maturity, my...

July 26, 2018

I made my big screen debut!

And I could not be more excited to have shared the stage and screen with some of my best friends in comedy. Out on Stage: The Movie features stand-up from some of the nation's best queer comedians, yours truly included.  It's hosted by Zach N...

June 24, 2018

The hardest part about doing anything is getting started. Perhaps that’s why, even though I wrote my first real “joke” back when I was in college, it took me four years after I graduated to get up on stage for the first time.

(That joke, by the way, was about how Jesus...

June 24, 2017

DEAR TOKEN: Can I touch your hair? It looks awesome!

(As much as I want to, I can't in good conscience end this post there; but just know that getting this further breakdown is a gift meant to spare other ethnic people from my pain).

June 20, 2017

Dear Token,

I am a straight, cisgender woman who has a lot of gay friends. We go to the clubs together, go to Pride together, and are generally together at most times. In short, I would probably be described as a fag hag. However, I am well aware that the idea of a "ha...

February 14, 2017

I pride myself on being out of the box, except in this case! Thanks to my good friend Samantha Hale, co-host extraordinaire, I got to be a guest on The Pandora Boxx Show on the Universal Broadcasting Network. 

RuPaul's Drag Race All-Star Pandora Boxx hosts a wild podcas...

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